Yesterday we lost an amazing woman.  Frances Nellie Chu, Fragrant Flower, sadly passed away yesterday morning just before 8am.  She was such a strong, independent and loving woman.  She was so proud of all her children, grandchildren and greatgrandchildren and loved us all so so much.   She was one of my best friends and I will miss her every day.

The funeral was last Thursday.  Gran would have like the hymns that were sung, Morning has broken and All things Bright and Beautiful, and would have appreciated the number of people who came.  At the end of the service we released 2 doves which Gran would have loved.

It was so tough to say goodbye, but you couldn’t help but think that she would have appreciated all the effort that was made and all the good wishes and thoughts. She also would have liked the fact that it was a beautiful spring day with plenty of sunshine.  She will be missed by so many people and there will forever be a huge hole in our lives without her.

I remember you telling me about a dream you had once.  It was about Grandpa and I remember you saying that it was so vivid and so real that when you woke up in the morning you were confused and saddened to not find him in the bed next to you.  I remember thinking to myself that it was becasue you missed him so much.  I think I told you that it was his way of telling you that he was still there looking out for you.

Last night I dreamt of you.  We were in your house and it really was so vivid and so real.  It felt so lovely to have a conversation with you again.  When my alarm went off this morning I didn’t want to wake up as I didn’t want it to end.  I wanted to sit and talk to you forever.  I know you are here with me and that you will live on forever in my heart, my memories and my dreams, but I just wish I could see you again.  I feel like there is so much I still had to learn from you and so much that I didn’t get around to saying to you.  I miss you and I love you.

I almost did a you today!  I didn’t think I could finish my burger at lunch and the thought crossed my mind that I could wrap it up in my handkerchief to take home for the cat! I remember when you had the dogs and we went out for chinese and had spare ribs that you’d nibble a small amount of the meat then wrap it in your napkin to take home.  Even very recently when we went to Ruxley you had a chicken sandwich and half the meat ended up in your handbag to take back to the cat.  Your generousity of spirit meant that you were always thinking of others including the multitude of animals that called 112 North Cray Rd home.  I aspire to be as thoughtful as you. xx

The funeral service will take place on Thursday 22nd April 2010 at 2pm

at Eltham Cemetery, Crown Woods Way, Eltham, SE9 2RF and afterwards at Hall Place Bourne Road, Bexley DA5 1PQ.

Family Flowers only please, but tributes may be made in her name c/o Francis Chappell & Sons 41, Sydenham Road, Sydenham, London SE26 5EX (0208 778 6658) and will be divided between Sponsorship of Trek China in aid of  Yorkshire Cancer Research and the Babyloss Awareness Campaign.

I’ve taken the jumper you were making for Zac.  I’ll try my best to finish it for you, but without your guidance and wisdom it may take me a while.  I also need to take the curtains up.  Don’t worry, I won’t use the machine, I’ll do it by hand.  I just need to work it out, I wish you were here to show me how.  I know what you would say, “it’s not so hard”.  I hope you’re right!  I’d hate to make a mess of your beautiful craftmanship.  xx

As you would say “I must tell you this”… The cat has settled in ok and is eating all his food!  He’s not being fussy at all.  I wish I could phone and tell you this as I know you would laugh and say “the horror”.    I just wanted you to know that you don’t have to worry about him.  xx

A Poem by Allie

To Gran,

I think of you and I cry,

I ask one question – why,

Why did you have to die?

I think of you and I feel sad.

For me, Jess, Michael, Carol, Dad,

James, Carrie, Tasha, Tamsin, Mel,

Jen, Dave, Andrew, Zac and Ciaran as well.

Your friends and family – all who loved you

We are really going to miss you.

I think of you and I’m inspired.

I hope one day that I’m as admired

For strength of character and determination,

Loyalty, love and devotion.

I think of you and I’m in awe

Of how you toiled through the war.

Of how you kept on going strong.

You worked so hard for everyone.

I think of you and I think of flowers,

Of all those well loved gardening hours.

You amazed me with all you grew.

You amazed me with all you knew.

I think of you and I grin.

My memories held tight within.

The comments that you often shared.

Who overheard – you never cared.

When shopping, “Aren’t people getting fat!

What is she wearing? Look at that”

I think of you and I smile.

How could you wear thermals all the while?

In England, sure, I agree

But Egypt at 40 degrees?

I think of you, I hear your laughter.

You would laugh, I’d laugh right after.

We’d laugh at me, we’d laugh at you,

At quirky things that you would do

Take crab forks with when out to eat,

Feed your animals on quality meat.

Animals who would wonder in

And stay knowing they’re onto a good thing.

I think of you and I feel love

For you – the person described above.

But also a love from you to me,

A proud love for your family.

I’m sorry gran

I wasn’t there

I didn’t show you how much I care

I didn’t say how much I love you…

I love you Gran